Help! My Partner Won’t Dominate Me!

You’re partner won’t dominate you and it’s frustrating. What can you do?! You want her to take control in the bedroom but it just isn’t happening. You’ve tried talking, showing them things, and for whatever reason nothing seems to work and it’s frustrating. You’re at the point that you’re Googling for ideas, trying to break the code! For one, you’ve got to take a look at what you’re asking for from her perspective.

This isn’t everyone’s relationship or situation. Everyone is different, this is merely my observation, and since you’re here for help, please take it with a grain of salt.

If you’re a guy, chances are you’ve been watching porn for a very long time (years or decades). Chances are she doesn’t watch porn like you do. It’s probably not as often, or to the extent that gets you off. Porn works like drugs, the more you watch, the more desensitized you become. The more extreme your needs are because plain ol’ boobies no longer do the job. This is what she’s up against. It’s daunting, and she might not know what to do.

Throw Away Your Expectations

It will never be like it is in porn. You’re either paying for it or it’s free and they’re trying their hardest to get you to pay for the premium tier. Either way it is not genuine interaction. You are the customer, they are the service, and it is their job to help you get off.

She’s Saying Yes But It’s Causing Unseen Damage

If you’re pressuring the lady in your life to do more and more shit, she might say yes in the moment…. but you might be doing more damage than you realize. For instance, the cuckholding fetish seems to be one of the most popular and extreme things people work their way towards. Men are pushing their women to sleep with other people because it gets them off. But what actually happens in these situations is….

• She might go along with it, and before you know it she’s acting differently.
• The light in her eyes is gone, because you’ve pimped her out.
• She actually starts to like the other people she’s sleeping with and before you know it they’re making fun of you and doing stuff behind your back.
• You actually lose what could be the love of your life to something that is crazy dark.

I know that’s a lot. And I know that some people are built differently. But assuming she wasn’t really on board with it to start, but now she’s kinda doing it to make you happy? It’s not good.

The point is you do not want to force your partner into dominating you if they’re not interested. What you might consider instead, is talking to them about entering into a FLR or a female led relationship.