Introduction to prostate massage for beginners…

This website and the following pages are laid out to be clicked through in sequence to figure out how to start and get into prostate massage. It is intended to be a guide for facilitating a prostate massage using a hands-free prostate massager with the intent of a hands-free prostate orgasm. 

It is quite possibly one of the most intimate sexual things to try with yourself or with a partner who wants to be more sexually intimate with their partner. Safe to say it is a great way to spice up a relationship.

I have spent countless time reading, researching, and experimenting on myself to figure out a prostate orgasm… and I’ve learned a lot! For science! 

I’ve taken what I’ve learned and organized it for those who are looking to get started but aren’t sure where to start. This page outlines the basics of what is needed to understand before trying for a hands-free orgasm.

At the bottom of this page, you’ll see a banner to click through to the next page where I show some of my favorite prostate massagers along with some info on how to pick the right one. On the bottom of that page, there’s another banner which steps through the process of using the massager for the first time.

My intent is to teach you the basics before you spend money. Then you can pick up a massager either from me or elsewhere and come back to learn how to use it. This is good for the solo players out there, or for women giving prostate massage a try.

My goal is to help you get to where you wanna go.

If that sounds all well and good let’s get started by talking about the benefits of prostate massage.

How to Give Yourself a Prostate Massage with Mind-Blowing Orgasms

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Benefits of Prostate Massage

1. Relief from Prostatitis: Some find comfort from the symptoms of prostatitis (inflammation of the prostate gland) through prostate massage.
2. Improved Urinary Flow: Prostate massage may help improve urine flow by reducing the size and inflammation of the prostate gland. This is particularly helpful for older men experiencing symptoms of an enlarged prostate.
3. Pain Relief: Some men report that prostate massage helps alleviate pain and discomfort associated with prostatitis or other prostate issues.
4. Ejaculatory Function: Prostate massage may aid in improving ejaculatory function, although this is a less commonly cited reason for the practice.

Sexual Benefits

1. Enhanced Pleasure: For some, prostate stimulation can produce pleasurable sensations and contribute to sexual satisfaction.
2. Stronger Orgasms: Some men experience stronger or more intense orgasms when prostate massage is incorporated.
3. Increased Libido: Although not proven, some guys have increased sexual drive and arousal after regular prostate massages.
4. Sexual Control: For those in D/s relationships it can be a great tool if using chastity or similar for sexual expression.

What Is The Super O & What Does a Prostate Orgasm (Pgasm) Feel Like?

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The Super O, also known as a hands-free orgasm is typically a dry, whole body orgasm. But what does a prostate orgasm feel like? If you can imagine how a woman’s orgasm works, where some can build up over time…seconds…minutes…hours… this is similar.

Also since it’s not a traditional orgasm there is no refractory period which means that you can have this experience for hours. You’re not just receiving prostate stimulation for 5 minutes and ejaculating — that’s exactly how this DOES NOT WORK! lol.

The Super O is typically the result of a long process of massage where someone is calm, relaxed, and in the right mind state. It starts with P waves, also known as Pleasure Waves, which feel like fluttering, tingling, and warm feelings you can feel when you’re in this relaxed state. Have you ever been half-awake and half-asleep and kind of in this dreamy space? This is the type of relaxation I’m talking about. 

It’s in this state that you’re open enough to feel these tingles that they can build up to become more and more intense. But notice I didn’t say you’re trying to feel these feelings… this is all a listening exercise, listening to the prostate, being open and relaxed, and appreciating the p waves. 

It’s here that everything feels like an ocean, it’s ebb and flow, come and go, the pleasure builds… and eventually it might hit you. The Super O! Where everything crescendos and you have these indescribable feelings of pleasure, joy, emotion… it’s amazing! 

But for this to happen… you need to rewire your brain to listen to p waves. Don’t worry though, it sounds scarier than it is. 

P Wave Rewiring & Male Anal Massage

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P wave rewiring is the very straight forward process of using a prostate massager in a relaxed state (I got into this in more detail on the following pages) with the intent of feeling small pings of pleasure from the massager. The better you can relax, the more focused you are, the easier you’ll feel the p waves. They are extremely subtle, but if you can get yourself into this calm headspace — this is key to every single successful session.

Anytime I’ve had a failed session it was because I wasn’t prepared. I was busy, overwhelmed with work, I had a time commitment, I didn’t feel clean back there — you name it — I always recommend people do everything they can to be chilled out. No porn. No drugs. No alcohol.

The goal is to garner enough pleasure waves to reach a staircase of pleasure that builds higher and higher. And if you can keep your cool and focus on the enjoyment, it might eventually turn into… the greatest orgasm of your life!

How to have a prostate orgasm

• Prostate massage has nothing to do with your sexual preferences between men and women. I.E, it isn’t gay.
  • People equate butt stuff to attraction to the same sex. The real deciding factor here isn’t if butt stuff feels good (it does) but actually comes down to WHO YOU WANT TO SPEND YOUR TIME WITH. 
• This has nothing to do with your dick, in fact you’ll be ignoring it all together for this.
  • A lot of porn shows dick play as being part of this. While it is amazing to incorporate afterwards…. it is not what I’m talking about here. This is strictly about no-dick stimulation of the prostate. When you ignore your dick, you’ll unlock a tremendously deep ocean of feelings that come from the prostate. Put it away!
  • It’s unlikely you’ll ejaculate, or ooze cum. Some do, some don’t. Don’t focus on it.
• Prostate massage is first and foremost a listening exercise.
• You need focus.
  • Patience
  • The Best Prostate Massager For Your Anatomy
  • Good Lube
  • Lots of Time
• Talk to your partner so they know you’re trying something new.
  • Honesty is the best policy. Stick to it, and it will lead you to some great things.

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A Quick Story + Prostate Massager Tips

I learned that prostate massage can unlock insane orgasms. The deeper I dug, the more I became obsessed with learning about the topic. I read all about people’s earth shattering orgasms that were achieved without touching their dick and…. shit I was in! It was 2016 and I was on the hunt for what I needed to get started on my journey.

I learned that a big hinderance is a lack of focus, so I started a mental checklist;

• 2+ hours of free time. No distractions. No calls. No texts. No obligations later in the day/night. Preferably nothing to do the next morning.
• Late night works best if I’m alone for the night, I can settle in early and enjoy until bedtime.
• NO PORN WHATSOEVER
• NO DICK TOUCHING WHATSOEVER

 

The Best Prostate Massager & Didn’t Know It

But I didn’t have a massager, and I didn’t know what to get. I already owned dildos, butt plugs, all sorts of stuff that I tried and failed with. 

I needed to either suction the dildo to the right surface, of get into a really awkward position to use it… and that killed the vibe for me. I couldn’t focus, I couldn’t relax, I kept shifting around trying to get the stimulation and in that struggle… failed to get ANYWHERE! 

Then I found something called a hands-free prostate massager…. it made sense. A hands-free prostate massage will probably go well with a hands-free prostate massager! 

I learned that I needed something I could set and forget. Something that goes in, does what I need it to do, and allows me to RELAX. This is how I was going to figure out prostate orgasms!

There’s no need to fuss with it, I could lay comfortably, rest my arms, relax, and enjoy. And since it’s actually driven by the reflexive and non-reflexive butt muscles… it drives itself without doing anything at all! 

In fact the less I fiddled around, the more I was able to ‘listen’ to the pleasure eminating from the pelvis and eventually…achieve what I was trying to do!

The Super O Strategy That Works

The best strategy is a two’fer.

1: Allow yourself to have the right headspace. Follow the checklist above.

2: Use the best prostate massager for your anatomy.

Finding The Best Beginner Prostate Massager

I’ve spent a lot of hard earned money on sex toys. I’ve got dildos, vibrators, butt plug sets…. you name it. Sure it’s fun to make these purchases, but for something as specific as a hands-free prostate orgasm it needs to have a strategy to get it done right. 

What I wish I knew before I bought these things was that I actually don’t need…almost any of it.

Don’t Buy These Prostate Stimulators

I advise people not to get a random prostate massager offline. They are usually cheap junk made of unknown materials, and are generally made of a soft silicone-like material that isn’t body safe, with the wrong shape that isn’t good for hitting the prostate the right way.

Also… a lot of whack toys vibrate. Don’t fall for it. Vibration masks exactly what you’re trying to conjure up back there. It is counterproductive if you are trying to have the best orgasm of your life.

Same goes for thrusting prostate massagers. While they will (probably) feel pretty awesome, it is going to mask and detract from the much more exciting Super O experience!

Remember, a SIMPLE prostate stimulator that is contoured correctly for your anatomy. 

I Found The Right Prostate Massager On My First Try And You Can Too

During my research phase I came across a company that offered a few different prostate massagers to choose from. I didn’t know which size to get, let alone what finish to choose from.

I liked that they offered medical-grade plastic and medical-grade silicone options. Usually the toy is the toy, it’s either made of cheap silicone, glass, metal, plastic, or who knows what else. But this was different, they use body-safe, medical grade materials. This is huge because I care what I put into my body, and I’m sure you do too. 

How Deep Is Your Prostate? Finding The Best Prostate Massager For Beginner

Personally speaking, I know I have a deep prostate. But I wanted to confirm it so I didn’t buy the wrong prostate massager, I wanted a toy that would give me direct stimulation at the p spot. 

I used my finger to find my prostate…and found the walnut-like patch on the inside (on your back, insert your middle finger and curl it up towards your belly button).

I then measured how deep my finger went… and it was about 4 inches.

Then I used a dildo, I wanted to be sure the length was right. I checked with that too, and made sure I felt a little pressure on the P spot — it confirmed things at about 4 inches deep.

Then I looked at the site and found the specs on the toys….and found my toy.

The First Few Attempts At Super O

I needed to set aside time to become acquainted with my new friend. I waited for a quiet night where I’d have zero obligations to talk to anyone or do anything.

I used the bathroom, cleaned things out, and set sail on my journey…

It didn’t work immediately, and it took a couple of sessions… allow myself to relax and get into the moment fully.

Then, there was one night when I was able to really relax. I made sure things were clean back there, I had a light meal nice and early, and I took a nice hot shower before settling in to try again. 

I remember having my legs up on the wall on my bed. The toy had been in for about ten minutes, and I wasn’t feeling much at all….

But then, all of a sudden, things started to BUZZ in my pelvis.

I was shaking and felt intense pleasure radiating out of my pelvis. Things were tingling and building up in this strange new way. 

And then…. a bolt of lightning! It was uncontrollable! I was convulsing in pleasure on the bed! It was the most intense orgasm of my life! I couldn’t believe it!

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